Okay here
it is, in life everyone is given an opportunity to do whatever they please.
From being happy, to moving on and many other examples but there’s this little
thing that I choose to talk about today. It’s not exactly that little but this
whole month there’s a lot of it that has been going around and that is either
being the dumper or the dumpee. I’m sure no one likes to be the dumpee they
rather be the dumper.
What I can
say is that being the dumper may sound like it’s an easy job. Honestly to tell
you the truth it’s not, well for me it’s not because when I’m the dumper my
friends will go like….
Why did you
even dump him? He’s such a sweet guy.
Or
Why did you
even started a relationship with him when you know it’s not going to last long?
Or
Didn’t I
tell you not to break his heart? He’s the only guy that I know that treats his
girlfriends well.
And many
many more trust me when it continues longer it’s irritating. Okay to break the
news to you people have their own reasons to why they end the relationship.
Some reasons are good some are bad. The good thing is that maybe they just
didn’t suit each other so it didn’t last long and they end it earlier then
endure it till god knows when. The bad thing is that you leave them for someone
else such hypocrisy I might say. By being the dumper somehow its like were
responsible for what happens to our ex’s and trust when you think you got
everything under control that’s the time when they do unexpected things. So
always be aware of what’s going on or not your going to be in deep shit.
As for
being the dumpee GOD! That’s hard and whoever is going through that now
honestly I know how you feel. For dumper’s they never felt what it’s like to be
dumped and when they do they’ll realize how much it actually hurts. When they
do it’s too late to even say sorry. Maybe being in a relationship that doesn’t
have much connection makes it easy to just go our separate ways but just
imagine those who have chemistry at the first sight. The most disappointing
thing is when we know we have chemistry with that person but do they know
there’s chemistry? We always need two hands to clap not one. Just when we
thought that everything is just so great we get dumped and the world just
tumbles.
To you the
world seems like its crumbling and everyone around you will be like….
Are you ok?
What happened?
Or
Why aren’t
you telling me anything? I’m your best friend.
Or
Stop
crying! You look like a freaking maniac.
Trust me
that happens, well besides that being the dumpee was never easy and sometimes
we just need time to absorb everything and for some it’s not easy especially
our first loves. I use to talk to my mother about all of this after my first
love and she told me the scariest thing of all which is that you will never
forget your first love. At first I was afraid I didn’t understand it but as
time passed I understood everything. Well to me maybe it’s because that is the
first time we ever felt love and it made us feel special in everyway. We felt
needed, loved, cared for and everything else in the world didn’t seem to
matter. When the relationship ends it’s like we feel useless and not safe at
all.
For some we
need time to let things mend and we’d rather keep it to ourselves first then to
let everyone know because the more you tell the more questions your going to
have to answer. At that time it’s never a great solution because it’ll only
hurts us more.
Life is
said to be never easy that we have to go through all types of obstacles but it
only makes us learn more. About the dumpee and dumper well if you’re the dumper
do what you think is right for both sides and not be selfish about the
decision. Do it for the greater good of both parties and don’t care about what
people might say because they’re not in your shoes. For the dumpee’s well I
know everything seems uneasy and impossible well its not all you need is time
and nothing is impossible if you have the determination to try. Life is always
the greatest gift that God has given to us and why should we waste it enjoy it.
Have fun so what if they’re obstacles we can overcome anything if we just put
our mind to it.
To the
one’s who are in a relationship just enjoy the present don’t think about the
past or the future. Just enjoy being in each other’s arms. Be sincere to
yourself to your heart and everything will be just as magical. Well I’m afraid
that’s all for now. See you later peeps.
